How I work
I work with clients to draw attention to overlooked strengths, limiting beliefs, stalled thinking, repeating patterns of unproductive behaviour, and the emotions that go with them. My approach is not at all formulaic: it’s based on your unique needs and goals.
When working with you my aim is to create a supportive space in which open conversation and valuable insights can occur. Such space is surprisingly difficult to come by in everyday life! Although trained in a number of goal-focused approaches, I use these methods with a light touch. My experience is that many people lack time and opportunities for reflection. Clients almost always gain from the opportunity to stand back and gain a fresh perspective.
When appropriate I will weave creative, visual and imaginative methods into the conversation, because they often prompt insights and deep learning. Oftentimes our very best rational thinking has failed to shift or solve a problem; it’s what’s not fully known or difficult to say that keeps people stuck. Experimenting with pictures and symbols, and being creative with different viewpoints, standpoints and with our sense of time, can all help generate fresh thinking. While many clients are initially uncertain, their comments and feedback confirms the lasting benefit of these ways of working.
Counselling and psychotherapy are ‘talking’ therapies that work by helping people deal with difficult feelings or thoughts, and by developing insight and awareness that leads to positive change.
Through talking, the counsellor and client explore issues and questions that are causing the client to seek help. Through this exploration, the client develops more self-understanding and insight, often finding ways to resolve difficulties and move forward. Counselling isn’t about giving or getting advice – but it is about growth and change. Recent research is showing that counselling not only helps people change thoughts, beliefs and feelings - it also prompts the brain to make physical changes too. It is thought that the key elements of counselling and psychotherapy – being listened to, understood and valued – help both the person and their brain to change and grow.
Gestalt counselling is a very practical approach that prioritises your opinions and experience, and encourages people to experiment with new ways of thinking and behaving.
How long does therapy last?
The length of therapy is entirely for the client to choose. Sometimes a problem may take several months to resolve, but just as often it can be concluded in just three or four meetings.
For problems which are interfering with a healthy lifestyle including anxiety, compulsive disorders & addictions: I have developed a specific approach to resolving 'anxiety', OCDs, general anxiety disorder and depression. The roots of these problems may like in unprocessed experiences of abandonment, unresolved trauma or experiences in life. My programme uses a short course of hypnotherapy, combined with counselling, to resolve the core issue and to re-imprint the experience so that you are able to free yourself of the behaviour or symptom which is limiting your life.
Please call or email for more information about this treatment approach.
Everything you communicate to me is treated in the strictest confidence, and any notes I take are available for you to see.
I will never break confidence unless you give consent for me to share information, or if I have concerns about your safety, or the safety of other people.
All professional therapists and coaches discuss their clients with a supervisor as a professional requirement. Supervision is designed to protect your interests and assure the quality of my work. Your full name will not be given to my supervisor.
My offer to you is a complete, safe, and supported experience that integrates the practical, emotional and spiritual aspects of your life. I have trained in several different therapeutic methods (including Gestalt, NLP and Family Systems) which I bring together so as to work in a tailored way with each client.
I am an integrative therapist and practise within what's called the relational humanistic approach, which prioritises the quality of relationship between the client and the counsellor: this is the foundation that supports all of the therapy.
I have no stake in your decisions or fixed opinions on how you should lead your life. My role is to support you and help you clarify your emotional and mental processes, remaining open, non-judgmental and genuine at all times.
My clinics close at 8.30pm and I will respond the next day to messages sent after that time.
If you need help urgently, call the Norwich Samaritans: tel 0330 094 5717 or 116 123 (freephone).